Hello I'm Rich Brown and this is my personal website and blog. I'm just your simple, average, down to earth, professional, out gay man and aspiring circuit boy, living in Phoenix, Arizona with a few things to say while trying to find my place among all the scary, conservative, religious nuts in this sick and twisted world.
Friday, February 18, 2005
Dinner and the Great Gay Debate.
@HOME. Ok so Justin and I were invited to Mykle and Doug's house for dinner tonight. They had 2 friends (Chris and Kevin) in town from Seattle and 2 other friends (John and Kevin) up for dinner as well.
The dinner was fabulous. Mykle made Filet Mignon (Which I might add here that on Wednesday night I had just gotten done telling him how I had decided to give up red meat and how happy I was about it. He laughed and informed me the menu of steak for tonight and graciously offered to make me something else. Of course I declined, I'm definitely not about causing someone extra work, so I simply rescinded my avoidance of red meat for a week. Pathetic, I know, shaddup!)
Following dinner the great debate ensued for the rest of the evening. I don't know how it got started but politics, religion, gay rights, marriage, and license plates among others ended up as the topics. It was open season on everything. At one point both of the Kevins were arguing with each other, well not arguing, but more like strongly trying to persuade the other Kevin to his point. It's amazing how a group of gay men can argue about basically the same views. It was a great conversation and I really enjoyed being able to take part.
Having dinner, drinks and conversation with this group of gay men was really fulfilling and reminiscent of the group of friends and late-night conversations Justin and I were are part of in San Francisco. It's actually been a while since we've been in this setting, and it was such a nice change.
As much as I love my straight friends (they can't help being straight, it wasn't a choice for them) I really do enjoy being among a group of other gay men. It's refreshing, and it's almost like we're "with our people" I know that might sounds trivial, but the level of comfort, the conversation topics, the language, the subtle digs at each other, and the raw dynamics of the group was something I've only ever experienced in these social settings.
Bottom line. Justin and I need more gay friends and social gatherings. It's really nice to be among "our people".
Hiya Rich! Filet Mignon is my fav red meat, when I eat it! YUM!
I think I understand what you mean about being around your friends more ~ being around a bunch of people of "like minds", or beliefs or whatever, always makes one feel comfortable and content. It's the complete opposite of being in a crowd of racists, or gay bashers, or prejudiced people, if you know what I mean.
Hope you have a great weekend!
|______________________________________________________________________ posted by Jude @ Saturday, February 19, 2005 12:04:00 PM
In a way it doesn't sound trivial to me because you bind (do you understand? I'm not sure it's correct english sorry :/) with people with who you have connections, so it's normal to enjoy spending time with gay friends. I'd like to share this kind of moment but for now i "only" have straight friends.
But in some way when we say being "with our people" means that we are apart...there's a gap between straight and gay. For me there's just one group, the human being. I don't say that specially for you but in general if folks just think that we are all the same, life could be so much easier !
Yes I know I'm living in a big awake dream lol
Have a nice week :)
|______________________________________________________________________ posted by Walk on your own path @ Sunday, February 20, 2005 1:44:00 PM
I understand that you mean ... I think the word you were looking for was 'bond'
You don't have to be in a hurry to come out and have gay friends, you have your whole life and you will know when the time is right to tell people. I also understand what you mean by trying to eliminate the gap between straight and gay, but unfortunatly the world has put us in a position where we can act as one group.
The one thing you will find is that when you start to make gay friends, you feel more comfortable with them because you can say anything without fear. You know you won't be judged and in a way these people also become your extended family.
You're not living in a dream, you just want what all of us dream for in life. It's just going to take some time thats all.
Have a great week and thanks for your comments.
|______________________________________________________________________ posted by Rich Brown @ Monday, February 21, 2005 3:04:00 AM
